How do you make decisions in your life?
How do you decide what is the most important thing to you?
How do choose between one thing or another?
A friend and I recently had a conversation where we were talking about values, and how she had been asked what her two highest values were and how the question had kind of derailed her a bit (and for the record these are the best questions because they make us have to deeply reflect and consider who we are, and what we stand for, and how we are).
Most of us tend to drift along in life, and make decisions based on the type of house we want to live in, or mortgage repayments, or career or investment goals or where to send the kids to school, or shall we go to Bali or Fiji this year.
Most of us know the things that we want for our life and we are clear on what we want to attain and achieve. A lot of our sense of self and self worth is tied up in these things.
We might create a vision board or do a Be, Do, Have list, or set ourselves goals or targets to achieve.
What this means is that we become externally focused and it is in this that we can lose sight of who we are – IF we ever even knew who what person is in the first place.
Have you ever asked yourself these questions:
WHO AM I?
Who do I want to be?
How do I want to be living my life?
What are my priorities?
What is important to me?
What are my values?
When you understand these things, it becomes a lot easier to make decisions and choices in your life, because you have a very clear, non-negotiable decision making framework.
But the thing is, most of the time we don’t ask these questions, because it is too hard.
Asking them means that we have to take a good long hard look at ourselves and take responsibility for who we are, for how we are, for where we are.
(The irony is though, that we are more than happy to go through this kind of process at work, or in our business).
I believe that a successful, happy life is achieved when we have CLARITY.
When we have a very clear sense of who we are, we know what unconditional happiness means for each of us, we are rock solid in the manner in which we want to live our life (our values, or principles) and how we want to be in our life.
The other stuff – the stuff of conditional happiness – then just becomes the icing on the cake in an already happy, full and successful life.
I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on this.
If you are interested in understanding yourself better and learning how to take 100% responsibility for your own life, you can join The Happiness Hunter and take part in a 3 month bootcamp where you will learn the steps to create your own happy life. And if you are in Melbourne, please come and join us for a walk – they are free, but bookings are essential, just so we know to expect you.
We are also running another Retreat just outside of Melbourne in June – we have had some amazing feedback from our last Retreat – please note that places are filling and we are capping at 8 participants.
Additionally, I also offer a 3 month 1:1 coaching & mentoring program. Please get in touch with me if you would like more information.
And finally, for those of you #BusinessAddicts out there – don’t forget our first #BusinessAddicts – LIVE event on the 21st May in Melbourne… and keep an eye out for the #BusinessAddicts mastermind which is coming very soon!
What some of our recent participants have said about our most recent retreat:
“This experience has helped me gain invaluable insights, not only into my own life but that of others. This time away and the retreat has let me refocus on what matters, what’s important and to really give back.Thanks to these amazing women Fiona and Em!” – Karen
“Thank you so much for another enlightening retreat. I felt it went smoothly, there was structure yet also flexibility. You both held the space beautifully and I felt everyone was supported during workshopping which can be overwhelming!
The food was also a huge positive, and eating in worked well after a big day. I know everyone appreciated the love and care Kerri put into preparing everything.” – Christine
“Not knowing entirely what I was coming to, I left feeling as though it was exactly what I needed! Such a supportive and caring environment Fiona and Em know just how to tap into and dig a little deeper to find the answer that you had been waiting for all along.” – Annette
“The Retreat exceeded my expectations. It was wonderful to take some time out, reflect on where I’ve been and map out where I want to go. It was pivotal in my life plan and I’m excited to be already executing this now!” – Katrina