Here is a perfect example of why we need to ignore that nagging, negative and destructive voice in our head. It’s not true, it never has been true, its job is to keep us where we are, it doesn’t want us to change, to grow, to live life fully. That voice wants us to suffer and to feel afraid. Don’t let that voice destroy your dreams and hopes for your life. Keep on keeping on, even when you think you can’t. You can.
A few months ago I got interviewed for a podcast (Stand Out Life with Ali Hill) and afterwards that voice inside my head was telling me that it was a really shit interview and it probably wouldn’t make it to air. Even though I knew from past experience that it was most likely a perfectly good conversation, that feeling didn’t go away and when the interview did get published a couple of weeks ago I was really surprised and Ali wrote how much she enjoyed it and still that voice said to me that she was just saying that.
Anyway I ran a workshop the other week and there was someone there I didn’t know and I asked her how she found out about it and she said through my interview on Ali Hill’s podcast. So I told the group of participants about the thoughts and feelings I had had about the interview to highlight how insane that voice in our head is. And then last week someone commented on Ali’s post from the 20th August about how the interview impacted them.
This is what she said: “of all your podcasts Ali, this was the one. The one that hit me smack in the face. Fiona, listening to you speak was like hearing my life read out to me (give or take a couple of kids). Driving down Punt Road with tears of realisation thinking that this just can’t go on. I deserve more and I need to treat myself with a shitload more kindness and to set some goals rather than just wander aimlessly. Thanks ladies, it was the smack in the face I didn’t even realise I was so desperate for xx”.
Someone else also wrote this: “I also heard this podcast. One of the most amazing podcasts I’ve heard. You life mirrors mine with one huge difference: you have found your life’s purpose and passion and you are changing lives!”
I would like to think that my business is helping me serve my life purpose, if the purpose of my life is to help others, I can do that through sharing my experiences and challenges and how I try and overcome them. And that overcoming begins and ends in our head, in learning not to let that voice of defeat and failure and hopelessness and worthlessness and anger and blame and resentment and criticism and judgement win.
It’s like there are two programs running side by side in our head. One is the negative and destructive voice. The other is the voice of truth. It’s up to us which voice we choose to listen to. Remembering too, that it is the voice that we give the greatest weighting too, that will have the greatest impact. So we need to choose wisely.
It’s a daily battle, one that can only be fought and won with vigilance and discipline, being in the present moment and when we are connected and in our heart.
Fiona Redding is the founder of The Happiness Hunter, co-host of #BusinessAddicts The Podcast and author of The Happiness Hunter’s Guide to Meditation.
Based on leading research, metaphysical principles and her own real life learnings and experiences, The Happiness Hunter will teach and empower you to change your life with the strategies, tools and mindset shifts required to live an abundant, successful and healthy life, full of passion, joy and meaning, and free of stress and anxiety.
Our services include life coaching and healing services, a 3 month online Bootcamp, workshops, retreats, keynote presentations and corporate wellbeing programs with a focus on life integration instead of work life balance.
The Happiness Hunter also organises free community walks and weekly classes throughout Australia in an effort to increase happiness & wellbeing through human connection, nature and exercise, which is supported by a leadership network.